Tuesday, November 01, 2005

The idea, you see, is to be whole first.

Whole entirely and utterly, in every way possible, before finding that significant other. What, then, is the purpose of that significant other? No, it is not to complete you. It is to enhance you. You know how they add ornaments around an already beautiful and perfect cake? Yes, in that way. If you feel empty now, don't expect that significant other to pour love into that deep and dark hole. Because the sad truth is this: we all feel empty inside. We search for something, anything, to fill that emptiness. And chances are, when you find that other person, it's never going to be enough. In simple terms, I guess what I'm trying to say is: Be a good lover first, and a good lover will come to you.

You're broken up inside and you're looking for someone to fix you, someone to love you, someone to be there for you. But you see, this is the worst and most erroneous mentality ever. Because the startling truth is this: WE ALL ARE. Well, majority of us are in any case. And if we, every single one of us, are broken up inside, who can possibly fix us? Is there really no one left?

Think about it. And then maybe come to the answer I've stumbled upon many many times before.

I am going to ignore the world, unless I have no choice but to because of ________, or you are those people who can still manage to reach me even when ________. Contact me in January.

3 comments:

양사민 estelwen said...

a childish mind like mine cannot understand... lol
haix...
tired...
tml i go eat ur dog!

Anonymous said...

yes!! i agree with u!! i would like to use "ALL of us are empty".. yar.. and yupp.. there's so many things i would like to tell u now.. i know of someone who can fill all voids of emptiness.. someone who's whole.. and have this unlimited supply of love to give. i hope u'll read the book i give u.. the One who insipred it would fill u. i believe He'll be able to reach u, even when_____. haa..

양사민 estelwen said...

haha... i think we're all whole, the thing here is how much respect and love u give to urself and this is how much respect and love ppl will give u as well. zi lianism is another thing but for one who doesn't show love to him or herself, one can never expect others to love them as well. that's how the human population behaves... and it can't be helped...
the fact that we are all whole, the fact that there are so many wonderful things around us... what we lack, is the opportunity to discover and experience it... that's life, to grab hold of opportunities, to live every opportunity given, and to experience it. the wonderful feelings are ur's to keep :) that's what makes all of us full :)